Wednesday, June 25, 2014

My understanding about axioms...




Communication is something that happens to everyone in their daily lives either verbally or non-verbally through many ways. We don’t really pay attention on what type of communication way we use to interact with others. It just happens naturally and automatically. 

I have learned that there are six different axioms of communication in our “Interpersonal Communication” class. I try to not to mention definitions of each axiom. Instead, i will be trying to use examples to explain each axiom as far as i understood.




Irreversible


Personally i think we use this type of communication to speak with someone who is closer to us or known for a long time. For instance, when i talk to my best friends and family members, i just say directly what is on my mind at that moment. I would say mean things sometimes because i know this person would understand me and not get offended by what i said very easily. And when it comes to different individual, i have to think before i speak up. I can’t just say something mean to stranger. I need to aware of not to hurt or make that person feel bad.


Inevitable


Verbal or non-verbal: The very first thought that hit my mind was “deaf people” when i heard of this term. Literally, deaf people use body language that is called officially called “sign language”. If we take it academically, actually body language and sign language are differ from each other.
Not only deaf people use body language, but also normal people use it, too. For example, let’s imagine we are trying to talk to someone who is standing across the street and can’t hear us. We would have to use body language to say “hi” or “bye” using our hands. We also can say something not pleasant using our hands or fingers to make that person feel bad or hurt.


Unrepeatable


I think this is all about our first impression and feeling that never can be replaced and felt. It can be our good and bad memories and experiences. For example, if i go on a trip with great company, i would never forget about the memories related to that trip. And if i go to that same place but with different people, this time it can not be compared to my first one. I can not bring back all those  same memories no matter how hard i try.


Punctuation


For me, this means changing a topic that i don’t want to talk about into another one. Or to stop talking about something should no longer to be continued. People make mistakes and learn from them. Making the exact same mistake twice is nonsense. If someone tells me over and over about my mistake that i have already made, this conversation should be punctuated since i have already realized, understood and learned from it.

To sum up my thoughts, we just use every type of those axioms daily, only it depends on our mood, whom we are talking to, what we are talking about, where our communication is taking place, how long that conversation is continuing and also what kind of technical device we are using. Every single one of us has that potential to choose what type of axiom to use in certain circumstances to not to hurt others since “communication” helps us to understand each other. Our ultimate goal is just to be happy in this life.


“Speak when you are angry -- and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret” - Laurence Peters

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